When Good Girls Finish Last

You always hear about how nice guys finish last or get “friend zoned”, but you never hear about those select good girls still left in the world. The girls that fall fast and with all they have. The girls that when they talk to one person it’s the only person they talk to. The girl you take to meet your parents and your mom always loves. The girl who won’t hit on your best friend or play with your feelings, but only wants to make you happy in any way she knows how.

She’s the girl that scares you. The girl who things happen quick and sudden and unexpectedly with. The one who stops and makes you wonder if things are a little too good to be true, but they aren’t. Who she is isn’t over emphasized or made-up. She doesn’t polish or shine her imperfections she’s honest about them and blunt with who she is.

But that’s what makes her the good girl. She has a pure heart and a warm soul. She believes in Church and talks about God. She knows what she wants out of life and is driven with a forward focus on her future. She spends her free time with her family and her dog not in bars or clubs. She’s the girl that makes time for you instead of you having to make time for her. She fits so comfortably into this nice picture that it’s too comfortable and that’s why you are going to push her away.

You will start off by pulling away and talking to her less and less and she will believe you when you say that you’re just really busy when your really trying to push her away. Then when she feels the distance and asks about it or tries to fix it you will say it’s not her it’s you and she’s too good of a person that you don’t want to hurt her, but you just don’t know if you’re ready. Then you come to a place where you don’t want her, but you don’t want someone else to have her. You’ll leave her loosely hanging in the balance, because you know she likes you enough to hold on even when you’ve already walked away so she will be there when you are bored or you have changed your mind again.

But then she will walk away. She will get tired of the silence and the childish games. She will lose interest in being a second option. You won’t wake up to cute “Good Morning” texts anymore and random pictures during the day will cease to exist. The girl that liked you too much now won’t like you at all. The grip you had on her heart will loosen and she will realize she deserves so much more. She will quit wondering what you’re doing. The urge to text you first will fade away and you’ll stop hearing from her. You stopped needing her and now she’s stopped wanting you.

The truth is though that she’ll be ok. Her life will move forward with or without your name popping on her phone during the day. Sure she will be sad, but she won’t be broken. You’ll watch her life go forward to better things without you being a part of it through your Facebook news feed and her snapchat stories. She was ok before you and she will be after you. That’s the thing about good girls…she may want you, but she doesn’t need you. Don’t mistake her passion for love for a dependency on you for happiness.


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