People always tell us to “Grow Where You Are Planted” but what if we aren’t meant to? What if we aren’t meant to grow where we were originally put? Instead of growing where we were planted how about we thrive where we are meant to? Where ever that may be!
I was planted in a tiny town in southern Indiana where the corn grew taller than I did until I was a teenager. School buses got stuck behind tractors on their way to school. And if I got in trouble at school my mom knew before I got home (because she worked at the school). I spent summers playing in the creek behind our house and participated in 4-H until I was too old to anymore. I would never trade the memories of my childhood or the value in growing up the way I did. I was planted in that life but that is not where I chose to grow.
I grew in the moments that made me uncomfortable. I grew in the moments that shook me to my core. I grew in the moments that scared me. I grew in the moments that weren’t expected or planned but the moments that were meant to happen to put me on the course of life I was meant for.
The first time I really grew I remember saying goodbye to my family for the first time to move 700 miles away. I remember how it felt to hug my mom and sister goodbye as I cried feeling like this 700 miles was 700,000. I remember the tough days I went through when the only lifeline I had left was phone a friend and I would call my mom sobbing because I missed the place I had always wanted to get away from. What I didn’t know then that I do now is that those tears and all of those fears being away from home…that was me growing.
The next time I remember was surviving a divorce. My world fell apart on a daily basis for months. It was like a huge hole that I never thought I could crawl myself out of. Every time I would get a few feet from the bottom the depression and anxiety would pull me right back down. This went on for months, but all those times I fell right back down to rock bottom even though each time felt like I was further down than before I realized…I was growing.
Another growing season was when I moved to the big city. I moved away from my support system a lot of whom didn’t agree with my decision to move. I left my comfort zone where I had survived through the hard times. I left any normalcy that I had left in my life to change my direction and my surroundings because this time I knew… I was growing. I wasn’t growing in the place where I had been planted, left, and then came back to I was just going through the motions of who I had always been desperately trying to figure out who I wanted to be. I left all of that to find a place where I knew I could thrive.
I took the good times, the bad times, the unsure times, the confusing times and all the times in between as a time to grow. Most of the time in the moment I didn’t know that I needed to be going through what I was, and to be honest most of those times I absolutely hated it because I didn’t understand why I had to go through what I did but I do now. I know why I went through everything that I did because everything compiled together to put me exactly where I am now. Let me tell you how much easier it is to say that now than to live it then!
So don’t stay where you are planted just because that’s what you think you have to do, or because that’s what society is telling you you should do. Move. Make yourself uncomfortable. Make yourself be someone completely different for a season of your life. It doesn’t have to be huge geographical move or an emotional meltdown. Maybe it’s simply chopping your hair off to get rid of the past or going and sitting by yourself and having lunch because you’ve never just been alone for a while. Whatever it is just do it.
We can’t grow in our comfort zones so why are we restricting ourselves to them.
Have you ever felt stuck? Just like you don’t belong where you are, but you don’t know where you are supposed to be. This is your growing season. This is your time to flourish girl. When you feel stuck is the best time to choose to move. Like I said before it doesn’t have to be some big extravagant move or change maybe it’s just small minuscule changes to build your confidence to make a bigger change.
Whatever scenario you might be in or mindset you might have don’t stay where you are planted because that’s the only place you have ever grown. Dig up those roots girl and move. Go where you want to. Be who you want to be, because you deserve every bit of happiness in the world and how will you ever know what happiness you could have if you always stay where you’ve always been.